
The time to shop is running out this holiday season, and if you are the typical male, you probably either have just begun to think about venturing out into the malls OR you think you still have at least 5 days left. Be advised that as the time ticks away, your options are getting smaller and smaller. Which means you will enter the frenzied shopping world with limited options or worse… without a clue. So what are possible choices for gifts to give your special lady this Christmas season? Well, although I do not know what she likes, I can probably tell you what she doesn’t. Based on years of experience, I will share these ideas with you and the reasoning behind them so you can know what she is thinking (which puts you ahead of the curve already). Get ready… take notes:
- Do not buy her lingerie. You are thinking, “Why wouldn’t she like something sexy? Something pretty? Something that says I find her hot and attractive?” Because that might be what you are thinking when you head out to buy it but that is not what it says when it gets unwrapped on Christmas day. First off, be honest—isn’t the person that swanky outfit is really for is YOU? Yeah, it is.. and your little lady KNOWS that is what you are thinking! She also knows that because you picked YOUR favorite color, not hers. It is also a fact that you go in to those stores without a CLUE as to what size we are. So who do you envision in your mind when picking out the outfit? Yup… the salesgirl. So if you buy a nightie that you think will look good and fit Stacie the Sexy Saleschick, I’d bet money it might not be the best choice for your lady. It’s a no-win situation. If you really want her to get something alluring, show her a store catalog, ask her what she likes and what size she’d wear… and remember!!!!
- Do not buy her perfume. Unless she has taped a sample vial or an advertisement from a magazine to your car’s dashboard or the bathroom mirror with a note that says “This One”, don’t bother. What you like most likely won’t be what she likes. Not to mention, what it smells like in the bottle probably won’t come close to smelling the same way when your princess puts it on her. And even more so? Just because the Susan the Sexy Saleschick smells good in a specific perfume doesn’t mean your girl will smell good in it or even like it all all. If you really want your Mrs. Claus to smell yummy, get her a gift card and go with her when she uses it. Or better yet, pick her up a current fashion magazine, lift up each of the sample flaps, and ask her what is her favorite is. And let her know if you like it too!
- Do not buy her appliances. Even if she makes a list of things she NEEDS for Christmas, only get her things she WANTS. No woman WANTS appliances. The only exception to this rule is if your girlfriend or wife has a hobby that involves the kitchen in some way. For example, a woman would find it romantic if you took the time to find her special spatulas or baking stones if she enjoys making cakes or candies during her down time. That is a good thing. A woman would NOT find it romantic if you get her a turbo-nuclear microwave so she can heat up your leftovers faster in the evening. And giving her things with a blade or a sharp edge only provides her a weapon to use on you if you mess up on any other gifts. If you really want to get your significant other something she might like using in the kitchen, ask her what things every person with her hobby or interest has that she doesn’t.
- Do not buy her anything relating to her car. This includes gift certificates for car washes, oil changes, gas fill ups, a snow scraper, new wiper blades, floor mats, or seat covers. Even though she will insist to you that she is a modern day woman and can handle anything and everything in regards to the car herself (which she can, don’t patronize her!), deep down she still wants you to do it. If you really want to give her anything in regards to her vehicle, a nice, feminine engraved keychain with a special sentiment is always a gift from the heart that will be cherished all year.
- Do not give her cash. Dude, that’s just tacky. And shows laziness beyond belief. But you are probably saying “But what is the difference between cash and a gift card??” There is a BIG difference whacknut! Cash means you don’t care. A gift card means you went into the store, looked around, knew there were things in there that she would like and YOU liked and wanted her to be able to pick out exactly what will make her happy. It also means you are looking forward to the day that you will take her to a nice lunch and to the mall so you can smile as she tries on clothes and shoes for hours with you. And you pretend, with your best lying face possible, that you are enjoying every minute of it more than you enjoy life itself….GOT IT?
So what are safe bets this late in the shopping season? Well, I’m not expert, but here are some no fail gifts that any woman would most likely be happy with. Remember we all aren’t the same, but we are pretty close:
- – Jewelry (necklaces and bracelets especially)
– Reservations for a weekend getaway (bed and breakfast, romantic suite)
– Maid service for a month/year
– Tickets to a show SHE would like to see
– All the fixings for a “date night” (dinner gift certificate, movie tickets and a gift card to buy a special outfit)
– A large, framed print of a photo that means a lot to her (a place you went this year, a special event)
– And when all else fails, gift cards to places such as:
* Macy’s * …………. * Sephora * …………………… * Victoria’s Secret *
* Pottery Barn * ….. * Williams & Sonoma *……….* JC Penney’s *
* TJ Maxx * ……….. * Marshall’s * ……………………* Yankee Candle *

2. Embrace and love the throw-back 70’s style distressed jeans. Hello?…McFly? They look ragged already! So it doesn’t matter if you are just throwing them on right out of the hamper or out of the laundry basket. However they look, people think that’s the way they are supposed to look! Ink stains, extra holes, spilled bleach. It’s all good. Spaghetti stains, grass stains, splotches of pureed baby peaches, That’s not good. Leave those in the hamper. Stick to the bootcut and flared-legged styles as well. Last thing you want to do in the morning is have to lay on the bed and wiggle into a pair of skinny jeans. Those will definitely work in your favor at the crack of dawn.
3. Pick up a cute pair of go-with-anything sneakers and a pair of flat shoes. No one needs to be thinking heels at sunrise. If your feet are like mine, they are always achy in the morning. Find a pair of sneakers that aren’t necessarily an athletic kind. There are great styles made by designers like Marc Ecko, Sketchers and Roxy that look great but are still solid and casual. Same goes for flats. Avoid getting a pair of pointed-toe patent leather slip-ons for the morning shuttle service. Find a nice pair of soft-leather, suede or fabric ones that match anything and everything and can be worn with jeans, yoga pants or even shorts if the weather is hot.
4. Find a fashionable “mom tote” that matches everything. This season’s styles work in everyone’s favor because solid black, brown or metallics are all in! You don’t have to change purses every morning, but you want to be able to keep your tote stocked for the morning kiddie commute in case someone forgets something (and they will!) Stock your tote with things like extra pens, extra pencils, head- and tummy-ache remedies, mini packs of tissues, a wad of singles (for back up snack/lunch money), some nibbles like packages of peanut butter crackers and granola bars, and a small pad of paper for emergency gym notes or nurses excuses. That’s just for the kids. For you, make sure you have: your credit/debit card (a second card is best—then you can leave it in there), your Dunkin Donuts Perks card, your Starbucks card, gum or breath mints, a neutral lipstick, a lip balm, a mini hand cream and a concealer pen to hide any dark circles under the eyes that may appear between the driveway and the school carport.
5. Keep a simple, fast, neutral makeup look in the bathroom next to the toothbrush. As soon as you are done brushing the pearly whites, give your face a fast wash with a simple one-step cleanser and then apply a moisturizer with an SPF. Lightly dust on a little translucent powder to even your skin tone. Lightly pinch the skin on right under your cheekbones and hold for the count of 5 to make them naturally pink. If you can’t live without your eyeliner, throw on a quick sharp line (don’t smudge—it makes your eyes look tired too early in the morning) and throw on a coat of extra-thickening black mascara to make them pop. Find a nice one-coat liquid lip gloss or lip color and sweep it over your lips. Finish off your look with a lightly scented body mist that is awakening and lifts your spirits!
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A killer Spring-colored nail polish
A stay-put waterproof eyeliner and mascara
A new scent to jazz your senses
A pair of metallic flats
A bold handbag
A stylin’ trench coat (in fact, at least two
RÉNERGIE MICROLIFT R.A.R.E.™ Superior Lifting Cream SPF 15 Sunscreen by Lancome
Eye Believe by Philosophy – If keeping your face looking young is as important to you as drinking bottled water, then keeping your eyes looking young and wrinkle-free should be as important as taking the cap off of the bottled water! It is a fact that your eyes are one of the key indicators of aging. You want an eye cream that keeps the skin in the eye area moist and well hydrated. BUT… here’s the key… if you get a cream that is too rich, you can actually clog the small pores around the eye causing tiny clusters of little white bumps. That’s bad. Very bad. I tried this eye cream for a week and loved it almost immediately. It’s a silky cream that isn’t too heavy or thick, but still has all of the age-fighting peptides that are crucial in youthful looking eyes. It glides on with a powder-like finish so you can put your makeup on right over it and not have to worry about any greasy residue causing your eye makeup or foundation to slide off your face. Again, a little goes a long way. I’m just finishing up my first tube, and I’ve had it for almost a year. (Available at Sephora retail stores and Sephora.com)
Lip Shimmer by Burt’s Bees – The name Burt’s Bees is as well-known in the glamour industry as Coke is in the area of beverages. I will admit, I’ve read and heard fabulous things about their lip products but had never bought a single item. Every makeup review site I have ever written for or looked on has endless compliments about the Lip Shimmer products. Maybe I was just being a makeup snob, thinking that an inexpensive skinny little drug store tube could actually be so great. Well, I guess the crowd was right on this one! This long-lasting sheer shimmered color infused into a vitamin-enriched, natural balm is perfect for moisturizing my lips for an extended period of time and giving them a designer look. Plus the slight mint tingle is soothing as well. Available in 11 various colors, this little goodie is now a constant in my purse while being easy on the wallet! (Available at most drug and retail stores)
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L’Eau The One by Dolce & Gabbana – Sometimes you will get a whiff of a fragrance that smells totally unique, completely different from any other scent that you usually wear. It intrigues you so much that you keep sniffing your wrist or the little cardboard card where you spritzed a test spray to see if it jazzes you as much after an hour as it did when you first tried it. That’s what I did when I tried D & G’s newest fragrance. Its description of having a “fruity, head-turning twist” is dead on. It is a more glamorous scent with a hint of diva-tude than your average citrus-infused perfume, but still appealing enough to wear with anything and everything… from jeans and a glitter t-shirt to a backless evening gown.
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are bundled inside an exquisitely designed box. The chocolates may differ each year, but the sweetness of the love behind them remains the same. In my room, I have each heart of years passed and often look inside to reminisce about the fun times we had. I treasure each one and look forward to surrounding myself with an increasing number of beautiful hearts that will overflow with remembrances of all of the special times I’ve had with Mr. Sassy.
definitely is a tunic for all seasons. During the cold months, sweaters with poet sleeves or belted waists make the cozy very jazzy. As the warmer weather soon approaches, the Spring will bring with it bright, flower colors and lightweight fabrics. This tunic is a bit of both worlds. The long sleeves, scoop neck and empire waist still gives this top flare during the cool months but the light stretchy fabric allows for comfort as well as style as the temps rise. The go-with-anything pattern and colors makes this a style-statement must have! (BostonProper.com, $79)
gallivanting during my day, but it is pretty darn close. I love my black Guess handbag. The single, drop-down handle is the perfect length for me. It is long enough where I can toss it over my shoulder when my hands are full, but small enough to carry by hand so as not to break my arms. The size is big enough to keep just the necessities without turning it into a suitcase. Plus there are just the right number of compartments inside to hold my makeup, cell phone, etc. keep The big “G” on the front shows people that you know style, the price tag shows you know how to shop! (Boscovs, $56)
feminine and playful with a slight vintage edge. Notes of strawberry, violet leaves, grapefruit, gardenia and vanilla all intertwine to make you feel elegant but not too serious. And the bottle? How can you not love the whimsical design! What is great about Daisy is it doesn’t just come in the typical large spray bottle. It is also available in a purse-size spray with refill, a solid fragrance ring, a sparkle roll on, a rich body cream and a silky, shimmery body lotion. A little something for everyone. (available at most major department stores, beginning at $30)
Cleanser/Mask: “Breakfast In A Jar”
Exfoliate: Brown Sugar
Toner: Chamomile Tea
Moisturizer: Olive Oil

When it comes to all… and I mean ALL… of the lip products in my diva drawer, this is the one item I grab for when I want a no-brainer lip color. The majority of the time, I am a lip gloss girl. I love the flavors and moistness of glosses, but sometimes I wish I had a bit more pop to the color. Lipsticks tend to fade fast on me and dry my lips out like potato chips when I use them. This product gives you the coverage of a rich lip color but also the high shine and moisture of a lipgloss. And the scent/flavor? Sweet vanilla cake batter. Yum! The shades range from simple and neutral (Spledid) to bright and bold (Distinct and Tainted). Easy to carry tube and great curved applicator makes it easy to apply even without a mirror. Price: $7.50
Sometimes you need just a little bling to make your eyes stand out, keep you feeling young at heart. And right now, eye shadows with glitter in them are a dime (or a c-note) a dozen. The problem with most of them is that they have terrible “fallout” which means more of the sparkles end up on your cheeks and face than on your eyes. Mary Kate & Ashley’s top coat has the consistency of nail polish. You put it right over your favorite eye color to glitter it up. Then what’s nice is it keeps the eye shadow waterproof and keeps the sparkles from moving. You can even put more eye shadow over it to tone it down while still keeping the dazzle in place. With the easy to use soft, slanted applicator, the fun is endless with this! Price: $4.50
Believe it or not, I fell in love with this product after trying a sample in a magazine. Yes, I said that right. They put a hair styling product sample on a page in a magazine. I didn’t think it would be enough to see what it did, but it was! Just a drop or two really makes your hair soft and shiny. If you apply it to your hair while it is wet, it is fabulous for smoothing and detangling. Another drop or two after your hair dries keeps the frizzies away too. It’s not heavy at all and the scent, like most Fructis items, is yummy. This hair product definitely runs with the big (expensive) boys and gives you the same, if not better, results for a lot less money.